Blog 1- Releasing Resentment

It is a hurtful thing when you find yourself blindsided by betrayal... 

In those moments you can either replay the incident, analyzing what happened over and over. Try to retrace what possibly led up to it, what you should have done. Or you can choose to simply release it to God in prayer. 

Sometimes this will need to be done repeatedly, daily, and sometimes all throughout the day. But God is a very present help in times of trouble and He is close to the broken hearted and broken in spirit. 

What I love about prayer is that you don't have to pretend with God as if the incident didn't really hurt you, because God is big enough to handle our truth, even our ugly truths.  We can be honest before Him in prayer letting Him know how it made you feel and also ask Him to show you your hand in the situation. Shocking right? Well yes, sometimes our emotions will convince us that we are the victim, but sometimes emotions will cloud logic, so remain open.

When blindsided by betrayal, true growth begins when we look beyond the injury and examine the full picture—including the red flags or subtle oversights we may have missed. Rather than viewing the experience solely through the lens of victimization, consider it a season of development designed to sharpen your discernment. This moment may be refining how you communicate, warning against oversharing, or revealing that a truth you defended was too heavy for someone else to hold. By shifting focus from what was done to understanding why it occurred, you allow the experience to build your character rather than break it.

We must be willing to not look just at what was done, but look beyond the "what" and to the "why".  Take into the consideration of the person and their background to try and gain understanding. It is hard to hate what you try to understand. This will help to defuse the fire burning within your heart, and it will take the focus off of you and place the blame on the real culprit, the devil.  This is a spiritual fight, not against the person directly, but the spirit behind the behavior.

In this moment we as Christians can pray for healing for yourself and the person, and ask God how He wants to get glory out of the situation.  Also ask God to keep your heart light so that you will not become bitter if the person never apologizes or own up to how they treated you. 

Remember that God will use the good and the bad events in our lives to develop our character for our next assignments. 

See it as strength training.

Here are a few scriptures that you can study to help encourage you in this season. 

Psalm 34:18 "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit."

Psalm 46:1 "God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble."

Romans 8:28 "And we know [with great confidence] that God [who is deeply concerned about us] causes all things to work together [as a plan] for good for those who love God, to those who are called according to His plan and purpose."

Proverbs 4:7 “The beginning of wisdom is: Get [skillful and godly] wisdom [it is preeminent]!
And with all your acquiring, get understanding [actively seek spiritual discernment, mature comprehension, and logical interpretation]."

Ephesians 6:12 "For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms."

Ezekiel 36:26 " I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh."

Psalm 105:19 "Until the time came to fulfill his dreams, the Lord tested Joseph’s character."

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Blog 2- Remain Silent

It is far easier to declare, "The Lord will fight my battles," than it is to surrender control and truly let Him do so—particularly for those who are wired to fight back.

When God’s timing doesn't align with our expectations, the temptation to take matters into our own hands can feel overwhelming. At times, an attack from someone else reopens an unresolved wound, echoing a season when we were weaker and less equipped. In response, we may resolve to confront every incoming strike, a posture that quickly leads to deep exhaustion.

Yet when we look to Jesus, we see the ultimate example of strength held in perfect control. Secure in His identity, He never felt compelled to prove Himself to those who tried to provoke Him or push Him out of character.

As the Author and Finisher of our faith, Jesus modeled the exact way of being we are called to walk out every day. Because we are imperfect, we cannot do this in our own strength; we must depend on the Holy Spirit to empower us to live according to God’s will. When we bring Him our weaknesses in complete surrender, He trades them for His divine strength—giving us the supernatural grace to walk in steady obedience.

Study Scriptures

Exodus 14:14  "The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still."

Proverbs 3:5–6  "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight."

2 Corinthians 12:9  "But he said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.' Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me."

Hebrews 12:2  "Fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God."

1 Peter 2:23  "When they hurled their insults at him, he did not retaliate; when he suffered, he made no threats. Instead, he entrusted himself to him who judges justly."

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